Could've missed it


There is a concept I wasn't truly introduced to until a few years into my marriage (now almost 20-years strong). To me, it highlights one of the differences between my wife and me, and perhaps a difference between women and men.

The phrase is, "You could've missed it." A derivative is, "You're almost late." The concept is you didn't take all aspects into consideration and were up-to-the-minute on-time. Catch that…on-time, as in, not late. I like to refer to my newly learned aspect of time management as the future-perfect-potential-tense and yes, it's rather hard to diagram in a sentence.

I understand the concept of being late and never like being so. On the occasion that I am, sometimes there are good reasons and sometimes it's just poor planning. I'm not talking here about the times I actually am late and miss something, it's the times I am on time, but not as early as everyone in my family thought I should be.

The concept of being almost late is sketchy at best. Being almost anything isn't really possible. But it is something my wife has voiced concern about over the years with the phrase, "You could've missed it."

The practice of being almost late isn't even possible based on humans' understanding of time. A person is either early, on time, or late. Be it church, a sports event, one of our son's games, a meal, a race or whatever – if I get myself or the participants at the right place and on time there is (from what I now know) an alternate reality that I could have missed it. And yes, had I been late, I would have missed it. But I wasn't late so the future-perfect-potential-tense never came to fruition keeping me in the present tense of being on time, thus enjoying the game, meal, event, whatever in its entirety.

I didn't know that an alternate potential future reality was so close at hand and the horrors that lurk within. But apparently, a lot of bad things could have had happened if I, or anyone, almost miss something.

Pedal harder.
Rand

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